Alex & Sierra are amazing. The first time I saw them on X Factor (US), I just fell in love with their music and them as a couple. They exude a fairytale love. The looks they give each other are intoxicating. I am a closet romantic, what can I say.
It is so easy for people to love you at your best, but what happens when they see you at your worst? This is bound to happen eventually, even if it takes years, and if it does take years, then what? One can only hope that you get the support needed, but you never know – this is when true colours are shown.
A year ago I said goodbye to one of my best friends. She described me as “the brother she never knew she always wanted”, I described her as “the best friend I always wanted”.
A friend once told me that “you really don’t know what love is until you have kids”. I now agree, but would change that to “you don’t know how much you can love until you have kids”.
I don’t know if people can change their fundamental personality but they can definitely change their behaviour.
How often have you tried to change somebody or have them try to change you? You can spend a lifetime trying to do this but to no avail, and this can be draining on both parties.
People often talk about soulmates, but what about “soulfriends”?
While I mentioned in a previous post that I don’t believe in that single soulmate, I do believe in the principle of a soulmate, so the thought of a soulfriend is equally intriguing and also heart warming at the same time. One of the quotes above suggests that this person could be a friend, sibling or even a parent or child.
I believe in that perfect relationship – rightly or wrongly so! I have been told that I have a romanticized view of this but I don’t believe that anybody should settle. So many people are in just a comfortable or routine relationship, and there is nothing wrong with that – each to his or her own.
Define perfect? Perfect has a different meaning for each person. This does not mean that you don’t argue, disagree or are interested in the exactly same thing. In fact differences are what makes it interesting.
So, perfect? To me everything should just feel “right”, but this is hard to define. When your thoughts wonder aimlessly do they steer towards your partner? Does you partner make you a better person, the person you always wanted to be? Do they help you grow, and can you learn from them? Do they challenge you or your way of thinking? Are you headed in the same direction, do you want the same out of life? Do they make you laugh? All of these things and more I believe contribute to that perfect relationship – at least for me.
A natural question then, is that of soulmates. I don’t believe in that single soulmate. That does not mean I don’t believe in the principle. Could there really be only one person in the world for you? If that is the case then chances are most people will never find that perfect partner.
Instead, I believe that there are several perfect matches, or several would be “soulmates”. Maybe 1, 2, 3 or more – pick your number, but I think it probably lies somewhere between 5 and 10. The chances of meeting that person is still slight, and timing plays such a key part.