It is that time of year again where we look back at what has past and look forward to the things yet to come.
Despite this past year, I try to look at the big picture and realize that I have so much to be thankful for, a life that many people would strive to have. This allows me to appreciate everything that I have:
I have been thinking a lot about how I have gotten to where I am right now – “Lost but with direction, a path forward but uncertain of the journey yet to come”.
Many obstacles have been put in my path, but because of them I am in a position or have an opportunity to reach for one of my dreams. This is not the silver lining I refer to above. The silver lining came in the form of a new friend.
Recently I was asked by a senior recruiter “How does martial arts help me with business?”. The interesting thing is that this has come up many times before with friends and even my last boss.
My last boss has asked me how I manage to cope with all the stress and multitude of personalities and arguments that I have to deal with. We had a lot of “A type” personalities and many meetings got very heated with arguments and shouting!
My response was very simple – my martial arts training. For these instances my training helped me put things in perspective – deadlines, people screaming – it’s not the end of the world, nobody is dying. I told him, if somebody was coming at me with a knife then I would worry, but words are just words.
My whole life growing up I was very different to people around me (one of the few visible minorities in London) and then quite different to the people I met at university. I did not spend a lot time thinking about what people thought of me but I was still young and not yet confident in who I was.
It was only in my mid twenties after graduation did I really come into my own. I was comfortable and confident in who I was and the type of person I had become. It was with that realization that I decided that I would no longer care what people thought of me. I felt a huge sense of freedom after that!